Fireworks of the Heart

Fireworks of the Heart

The simple gesture I use to communicate to my children what's happening in me when I catch them being kind, loving and tender. (the House of Hendrix)

  • It’s that feeling I get when my son wakes me in the morning with soft kisses across my face…in the shape of a heart.
  • It stirs when I overhear one of my children telling another “I love you”.
  • It’s as simple as a sweet voice calling me ‘Mamma” instead of “Mom”.

These are the moments that move me. My children delight when it’s happening.

I pat my heart twice saying ‘Fireworks’ and they smile knowing exactly what that means.

Fireworks is how I’ve describe to my children the celebration taking place in my soul when I catch them in a moment. It’s a quick burst of joy which makes me thankful I get to be their mommy. So with a pat to my chest and a coyly uttered ‘Fireworks’, my children know they have unintentionally lit the spark.

During these long winter days often filled with fighting and whining, I celebrate those priceless moments which make it all worth it; I celebrate the Fireworks of my Heart.

       ♥  Allison

Fireworks of the HeartThe simple gesture I use to communicate to my children what's happening in me when I catch them being kind, loving and tender. (the House of Hendrix)

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A Humorous Approach to Table Manners – the pig who saved dinner

This is absolutely hilarious and would totally work in our home. Such a great way to bring JOY instead of nagging to the family meal. A humorous Approach to teaching Table Manners.  [the House of Hendrix]We have a pig. Yup, smack dab in the center of our dinner table is a pig. He’s been there for a few years and is responsible for bringing back PEACE to our family dinners. Here’s how it happened.

I wanted that dinner table with a hot, healthy meal and a loving family gathered around. My husband would ask grace and then my well-mannered children would pass around the plates of food as we chatted about our day. Yeah, NOT! During one exasperated dinner when my sons repeatedly burped during the prayer and then peas were thrown in protest to somebody chewing with their mouth open, I had had enough! My dinner table was completely filled with correction not conversation. It was not fun for anybody!

In  my desperation for sanity, I grabbed a rubber pig from the top of the toy bin and began a rant about how they were behaving like 3 little pigs. Their mamma fear turned into belly laughter as I laid down the new law of dinner time.boys

  1. If you burp, toot, or make an inappropriate bodily noise, You get the Pig!
  2. Every time you have a sharp tone or rude words, you get the Pig!
  3. If you chew with your mouth open, or…try to throw food into somebody else’s mouth while it’s open, you get the PIG!
  4. Napkin in your lap, not on top of your sister’s head or else, PIG!
  5. Rocking in your chair, getting our of your chair, falling out of your chair, PIG!
  6. The pig will move from person to person as laws are broken.
  7. Whoever ends up with the pig at the end of dinner does everybody’s dishes.

I felt better and they were roaring in laughter. This was our new dinner standard. Still is. It’s not your regular  chalkboard saying “In this family, we love…we forgive…we say please and thank you.”   But it’s ours.

The dinner table is no longer a place of constant correction, we just pass the pig. The behavior that used to bring dissention to our meal, now has brought laughter… and with that,  joy…and a table I want to sit at.

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The Interrupt Rule

The Interrupt Rule - How your child can show respect and honor to their elders through a simple rule.  {the House of Hendrix}

The situation is all too familiar. Two adults are talking and a child needs to tell their mother something.

       “Mom! Mom! ” the child says as their mother is mid-sentence with her friend.  5 minutes later it happens again.  “Excuse me, Mom?”

Even with polite words, the parent is being interrupted. It can be hard to focus on either conversation AND be an effective listener when your thoughts are continuously interrupted.

There is a great opportunity here for a child to show respect and honor to their elders by properly knowing how to interrupt a conversation.

Several years ago I took a parenting class called Growing Kids God’s Way which taught a solution I have recently reintroduced to my children.  It’s called The Interrupt Rule.

Here’s how it works: When two adults are talking and a child needs to interrupt, they simply put their hand on their parents arm or shoulder. The child waits patiently without speaking.

The Interrupt Rule - How your child can show respect and honor to their elders through a simple rule. {the House of Hendrix}

By maintaining contact, the parent knows the child has a need. The parent can touch their child’s hand to acknowledge its presence.The Interrupt Rule - How your child can show respect and honor to their elders through a simple rule. {The House of Hendrix}

The parent can continue in their conversation until there is a natural pause or good moment to address the child. ” Thank you for waiting Palmer, what can I help you with?” The child’s needs have been met and were addressed with undivided attention at a moment determined by the parent.
I also have been known to hide in my closet when talking on the phone to avoid being interrupted; so I have implemented the Interrupt Rule when I am on the phone. My children don’t wait forever, but this gives me a few moments to finish up my conversation before shifting gears.
In addition to the obvious lesson in patience, the Interrupt Rule teaches children to honor and respect their elders and the conversations amongst them.
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